Emotions : Anger

   Consider a plush and serene relaxation and rejuvenation centre with a steam bath facility. This particular facility is used by many people daily and today is also just another day. What the operator did not realize when he closed the centre for lunch was that he had accidentally left the steam on. As time passes by the build-up of steam is huge and it has no vent to release itself. When the operator returns to face the alarming situation at hand, he first turns off the steam. But what happens when he opens the door for an outlet to the hot air inside. It gushes out and leaves the person 'scarred for life'

   Let the room represent a human body and the door - his mouth. Where does that mammoth anger get its vent? To the person who cares for it to open the door and the mouth leaves him scarred for life. We often hear about people being asked to channelize their anger. Constructive ways to let out your anger like playing a game a squash. But in practical life do we get that much time to rush over to a court and start people after having turned a blind eye to every known face in the crowd you meet on the way to stop your emotions from flowing out? Self-healing is a much better process and it is somewhat closer to channelizing it. Some ask you to breathe deeply and concentrate on your breathing so that you slowly forget the events of the past hour or so. Some listen to music and sing along or rather scream along to let it out of their systems.

   Whatever you do to vent the internal unrest is upto the individual. There is no rule as to the line of action to be adopted. But one primary rule that every man should adopt in life is - never let your 'steam' burn your loved ones. One bitter word can create a life-long crack in a relationship or even cause it to end.Because there is only so much that your friend, your partner, your wife, your relatives will take beyond which the boundaries cease to exist and the inevitable awaits.

   Life is too short. The first 18 years passes away analyzing the world and the people dwelling in it. Dont waste the next 40-odd years repenting your decisions which were made in a rough state of mind or those words uttered in a fit of a rage. The arrows which once leave the bow, never come back. The strike is fatal and the damage - irreparable. So guys-  enjoy life as it comes and learn to get a grip of yourself and your emotions even when you are facing the worst crisis of your life. It is just a test of your strength and character and you need to emerge a winner coz thats the face your loved ones live to see....The smile on your face brings the sunshine in their lives. 

Clipping the wings

   The heart is a small bird which resides inside the cage of our bodies.There are a lot of aspirations and expectations this bird has.Also it has a lot of desires.The biggest desire is to fly...fly fly fly into the blue sky...So why is it that it just happily stays in its little cage when it has the entire world waiting to welcome it with open arms.It sleeps, it eats, it chirps away merrily but deep down somewhere the desire to spread out its wings and soar above everything else is always there.But what we dont realize is that everyday in captivity, this passion of the heart slowly loses its zeal.Every passing day makes the wings go weaker and the acceptance to the present scenario - unavoidable.

   But what was it in the first place that put it in its cage? No one is born in captivity - so what put the bird in its caged.Why did this creature of the sky get chained down behind bars of steel? Will the doors to the world ever open up for her? Will the heart ever be able to fly again? Will it ever be able to accept the world as it is or move on in life believing that the cage is her only comfort zone, her quantum of solace.

   What it doesn't realize is that the world has never forgotten about her.The sky still misses seeing its favourite birdie glide.The Lord is saddened to see its beautiful creation lead a sad dejected life with all purpose forgotten.The do you know who misses you the most? The silent bird-watcher. Coz every day he waits for you to set your self free.Every day he wakes up with a prayer to see his bird heal its pain, forget its past sufferings and shake off the shackles and soar away.Coz that is where it belongs.He wants to see her open up her beautiful wings and let the rays of the sun bounce off her silky texture and make every day as bright as ever.As the bird flies away to other zones, other territories, other continents and countries- it will eventually find a new and better admirer.Someone who will take very good care of this precious bird and keep her happy with him for the rest of his life. Maybe that is why the bird refuses to open up coz its afraid that his original lover will get used to seeing it fly and when eventually has to fly away, it will just hurt him.

   Truth is - You never love to keep your love restrained.Love is unconditional and selfless...It knows no bounds, no barriers. Sometimes one look is all it takes.Sometimes even a lifetime is not enough.Love is giving your all and setting the bird free and expecting nothing in return. Just the thought of seeing you happy all your life is all he ever wanted, all he ever wished for, all he ever cared for. So set your wings in motion and fear not what will happen if you fall.Always remember that your silent admirer - your bird watcher- is always waiting to catch you if you fall in your flight.All you need to do is FLY...Fly fly fly into the blue sky, dont ask how dont ask why.Coz all I wanna see is you soaring high !!!

When I becomes WE, but I meets E

 Happiness.What is your definition of this word.For some it means money,for some it means peace of mind and again for some it means a simple monotonous but love-propelled family life.But what helps bring about that sense of happiness in your life?Can sharing your joys increase your joys and sharing your sorrows reduce them?Well this also provides the distinction between two groups of ppl- introverts and extroverts.  
   An extrovert like me just cant contain his joys and is always waitin to tell the outside world of his achievemwnts or share his sorrows.And when he finds his Miss.Right, he cant stop telling everything about his day.He feels it a moral duty to keep his partner informed about his feelings and emotions and may be his past.But thats where trouble erupts... 
   Coz when he pours his heart out to his beloved, he expects the same in return.But what do you do when the hubby is an introvert and is reluctant to open up to him?Initially when love is young, things remain fine but with the passage of time, his expectations of an outspoken girl still lies unfulfilled.Its not that he can stop sharing his life as a vengence coz he is used to being heard and sympathized or appreciated as the situation may demand.But even though he accepts her emotional silence, there will be times when it can get irritating for both.And either one can take an adverse step in a fit of rage and scar both of them as well as the beauty of the relationship.Both feel they are right in their own personal ways and this slowly eats its way into the apple of love like a worm.   I guess the only way to make it work is by accepting each other as they are.This is easier said than done as love has two different meanings for them.The test of time as usual plays its role and only the survivors can live happily ever after.I guess you have to make your love age like rare wine, and not like milk which just turns sour and bitter with every passing day...Life is too short to be wasted fighting over triflings.Go out and live it like a champ, quit cribbing and show your unconditional love in a way even your princess didnt expect...Only then will you get the essence of the word HAPPINESS...

First Love

   There are things which you never forget in life - your first car, your first home theatre but above all, your first Love!!!

   I guess I was in class 5 when I saw her for the first time and I knew she was the one.She had the eyes of a naughty kid and the smile...god what do I say...she had the prettiest smile in the world with that small dimple which i just loved to watch.I could spend all day just gazing at her.A few of my friend came to know about it and they started teasing me but who cared.I was in love.

   Ours was a different kind of a love story.We never talked or even met each other.She probably didnt even know about my existence and still I had given away my heart to this princess .I had also written a poem about her which I have no clue as to which corner of my room it lies in today.Her name was Preity Zinta !!!

   She ruled my heart for years to come and I made sure I never missed any of her movies even if they were not commercially successful.With every passing day my love and devotion just grew towards her as I collected every picture and article in the newspapers and every wallpaper available on the internet.I treated my friends on her birthday - 31st of Jan.

   As i entered my college life, her movie ' Salaam Namaste' was released which contained quite a few sleazy scenes and had a bold theme.But she was my favourite for playing out those unconventional roles.I just loved the movie although most of my friends didnt find it worth a second watch.

   Time passed by and I got introduced to the first real girl in life for whom I felt something special.There were bells ringing inside me everyday which Preity could never bring about.This girl was special- too special for me and thats when I realized myself drifting away from celluloid to real-time love.With her I have spent the most precious and best years of my college life and the memories still linger on coz like all good things this too came to an end.But not before I thought I was totally over Preity and had probably moved on to the latest hotties like kareena and kats.Yet as I was watching Koi Mil Gaya today, I realized that I still adored her beauty, her smile, her dimple...I may not be the kid, all head over heels in love with this eternal goddess, but I respected her for the lady she was.The feelings had probably matured.That is what happens with true first love - no matter how much you move away, no matter how much you move on- you can never forget her.She has and will always be the special one in your life.Her position of being the numero uno is irreplaceable.And sometimes you feel the damage caused by her loss in your life is irrepairable.But I guess it is the voice of the universe which cant bare to see this wounded bird, and hence urges it to just move on...

The Parents' Diary

   There are certain moments in life which are worth preserving in life.Like how I wish I had someone with a handy cam filming the moment when I was born.As I was passed on from my mom to dad to grandparents-maternal and paternal.How I wish I could get a look at those joy-filled faces as they got a look at their prized possession in that small over-crowded hospital room.From that day on, life has never been the same for my parents.

   Till that day, they were content living a slow and quiet life in a small peaceful yet beautiful city and being content with whatever they had.But now with friends and relatives pouring in from all parts of the country and abroad, they had to make room for everyone and look after every individual's comfort in that small 2-bedroom company provided house they called Home.In short, life has been a breeze for them.Sometimes it took the form of a tornado which left a lot of destruction as it passed over us but they were too strong individuals to be shaken up by a mere wind.And thus we lived on to see so many happy and memorable moments in our lives.

   My parents were more than content tending to one kid in the house but I needed a sibling and I can be really pushy when I want to.My sister was born six years after my birth on a very auspicious day - the 25th of December- and I can safely conclude that 'She is the best thing that's ever been mine.' Fair as an angel with the looks of a princess, she taught me the pleasures in sharing and caring, the joy of gifting with the last penny you save and the magic of love even when you are at your wrestling best.Of course my parents had one hell of a time taking care of two nut-cases in a house of sane individuals, also sighted by them as the main reason why we could not keep a pet dog- they already had two Great Danes to take care of .

   These 24 odd years of my life on this planet has been an amazing experience thanks to my wonderful family.My sister has always been there to watch my back when I was in a spot of trouble.I was always there to take care of her minimal needs that she ever has had (compared to my needs in life, her's is a trifling).We never knew or realized that time was passing by so fast and now I have a job which forces me to stay away from home most times of the year.but every time I left home and saw my mom's stifled tears all ready to burst out on the railway station, I just couldn't  bring myself to look at it.I am a strong boy and I dont have so many emotions boiling inside me.But the truth was that I knew once she got home, my forever bubbly sister would be there to cheer her up.But now she too has gone to college and as I was leaving the station today and I looked at those tear laden eyes, I knew they had no place to go back to.No quantum of solace...Just a lonely house with memories of her two kids who have grown up so fast and now live in different cities far far away from the love and care of a mother's paradise.

The stumbling blocks

   Life is a constant learning process - an unending educational hub.The more you learn from it, the better you are placed in this big bad world.But like most other things in life, learning too comes at a cost.you learn from your mistakes.As one of my senior colleagues in office once told me 'If any of your bosses ever tells you he has never made a mistake in his life then there can be only two conclusions :

        1.He has never ever worked in life

        2.He is a great liar

there cannot be a third conclusion.Period!!! '

   Every mistake you commit in life, you feel sad, dejected, depressed and embarrassed for making a fool out of yourself.But it is not until you actually repeat the same mistake that people can term you as fools.It is almost our birthright to commit mistakes and learn from them for a better tomorrow.

   Enough with mistakes and errors.I have always wondered why we fall sick in life.What does that experience teach us? Not to eat that ice-cream in the sun or not gorge on excessive fast food? But I got the answer only a couple of weeks back.As I lay helplessly in my bed at my workplace with no one to take care of me,no one to nurse me back to health, I realized the true value of our parents.I could have given a lifetime to be at home at that hour of sickness.Of course I had to hold on for five days before I could go home but when I did, I couldn't have been happier.  Coz  no matter how many friends you have, how many servants you have, it is only the love and care of your mother that can nurse you back to health.No wonder they say that a mother is His angel sent down upon this earth to take care of us at all times in our lives.take a moment out of your busy lives people and appreciate the wonderful gift you have got in life.Dear Mom, 'I love You' !!!!

The sands of time

   With each step we take in life, we make giant strides towards achieving our ultimate goals in life - reaching our destiny.For some becoming a doctor or an engineer is their destiny,for some going abroad to study or work while for some others,death is their destiny.These last category people are the one's who adopt a life of solitude and selfless service and devotion of their lives to the Almighty.Leading the lives of monks and nuns.But do you think god gave you this life to just wait for a quiet peaceful shadow of death to come over and take your soul one day to Him? Is that what you think is the Destiny planned by the Almighty for you.I would fail to agree

   God gave us this life to go out and see the world,to admire his creations, to add to the existing miracles in the world, to make an indelible mark for yourself in this world.The footsteps maybe small but the impression should be deep enough for your future generations to admire and adore.A few wrinkles on your hand, formed as a part of your creation in the womb of an angel, cannot determine your destiny in life.You are the greatest creation of the greatest architect of the universe and you need to prove His belief in creating you correct.It is only when you aim for the stars that you at least land on the moon (moon supports life which the stars dont).

   It is never too late to make a fresh start, never have your feet grown too big or too old to leave that print in the sand of life.You just need to make a move and have your faith in Him.Coz its never that He has abandoned you in your times of need and desperation.His prints cannot be seen beside yours because He is carrying you...

The Journey of Life: The Callings in Life

The Journey of Life: The Callings in Life: " As a kid, we are made to do many things-some against our wishes.One of them being forced to study.That is where the actual journey begins..."

The Callings in Life

   As a kid, we are made to do many things-some against our wishes.One of them being forced to study.That is where the actual journey begins.The journey of life.We are too small to realize how important a Nursery interview can be.For us its just an occasion to memorize and vomit.But its a moment of great achievement for our parents who look at us with such proud eyes as we come out of that room.They probably expected us to be wailing or having had wet our pants.But we emerge unfazed and unscathed from the battlefield to be greeted by nervous moms and dads.We are asked about the sequence of events that took place in the torture chamber.As we unravel the proceedings of the battle like true bravehearts,we notice our parents swell up in pride to have given birth to such fine creations of the Almighty.And that is the moment we realize why we had to take all the pain to memorize, not cry inside, answer each question carefully and without hesitation- it is for that one moment of pride on our parents face.

   As we grow older and start maturing from mere kids into more responsible children, we do realize that whatever we do in life, its our parent's reputation which is at stake and we need to uphold it at all costs.At times it gets tedious to not commit that naughty little prank on your teacher or not land a blow on the face of that kid who has been constantly trying to bully you.But you know its for a cause...for a good cause.And just like that, you are a kid no more...From that day on, you are a mature guy who is ready to bear the responsibilities of life on his tiny shoulders.

Whats your Rashee

   With your birth you also get another free gift - Your SUN SIGN or rashee as its called in Hindi. I am an October guy and fall under the sun sign Libra...My friends believe I am a true libran in most senses.I am a womanizer, I am pretty lost out and daydreaming at times, I am compassionate but I am a total extrovert.

   But what I fail to understand is that does your birth date really manage to determine so much about what you are gonna be for the rest of your life?How can the position of the stars and god knows what not help determine your personality!!! I dont believe in fortune telling and all that shit too much but recently my female companion went to an astrologer to relieve my worries regarding my immediate professional future and I was surprised by the amount of details presented by him regarding my past - personal and professional.That day I really started wondering - 'Maybe there is some other guy born at the same time,same day as I and probably having the same fate as I do'

   Do you think that could be a possibility?? Like my doppleganger except he may not look like me but still be having an identical same life as I do!!! Wow...Life can be creepy..

Whats in a NAME

    Lets just say I was born with a name.A name I would not want to tell anyone.A name which has stuck as far as my feeble memory can recall.Actually its only after your birth that people suggest names for you.We Hindus also have this naming ceremony for the child where officially he receives his name- a name which will stick to him for the rest of his life.As we grow older we realize the true meaning of our names and the circumstances that lead to it.Some were suggested by the elders of the family,some parents do a lot of headbanging and come up with the most promising names that they feel is unique and represents the qualitities their child must possess.(My name means 'someone who forgives his enemy' although I am quite the contrary).And then there are some parents who choose the easy way out by calling their children Rahul or Pooja-no offense.
      A great man once pointed out to a great falacy of world history. "Whats in a name" was the famous quote by the great playwright William Shakespeare but unlike its essence, Shakespeare did not forget to mention his name at the end.